As you’ve likely noticed, I have just completed publishing a series of articles on the topic of building resilience. “Why resilience,” you may ask? That’s an excellent question.
In the ten years that I have had the pleasure and great fortune to be in private practice as an AD/HD Life Coach, I have observed and learned many things. For one, there are several aspects to coaching people dealing with AD/HD, other executive function skill challenges, learning disabilities and just simply brilliant, creative and sensitive folks who are outside-the-box thinkers and learners. All of these can, in some ways, be seen as or create dysregulations in one’s system.
The Importance of Managing Stress through Building Resilience
Though we do the best we are able in order to create lives of meaning, ones that we can sustain and that sustain us, life is often challenging. Curve balls come our way. Modern life is not always easy and most of us experience stress. At the very least, we are pretty consistently asked to manage stressors.
Our vulnerabilities “act out” when we are under stress. So, if you already experience challenges organizing your time and projects, prioritizing tasks or focusing on the essential but less interesting requirements of daily life such as paying the bills or doing the laundry, or if procrastination is one of your go to methods of functioning, these will all be exacerbated when you’re under stress.
I find again and again that when my clients and I take some up-front time working on the steps and implementing practices necessary to build resilience into their systems, everything else goes much more smoothly for them from there. Whether we are working on finishing novels or screenplays, starting or expanding businesses, finding jobs or changing careers, finishing degrees or even high school, managing children and families or reaching other particular life goals, everyone is much more easily and fluidly able to create, implement and follow through on the steps necessary to create the lives of their choosing, once we have devoted time to building resilience.
Though each person’s needs are unique, each of us and each of our lives run more smoothly when our physiological systems have everything they need. Hence, the focus and the series on building resilience has been about learning what each of our particular needs are and creating ways to meet our needs in the realms of sleep, nutrition, exercise, meditation, medication (sometimes) and, in all cases, relationships. If you have missed any part of the series, you may read the blog posts on my website: barbaralipscombcoaching.com.
There are so many other practical and beautiful aspects of coaching, all of which will be so much more easily learned, implemented and sustained once we understand and meet our basic needs.